Is it just me or has this summer been overloaded with weddings? It could just be my generation that all of a sudden decided this was the year to hurry up and seal the deal but regardless, I have never been more surrounded by weddings lately.
Oh yes, that’s right I too got married this summer. That may explain why I have had wedding bells on the brain. Perhaps it isn’t that I have been surrounded by weddings, but I have surrounded myself with weddings. Yes, I did become quite the obsessed fiancé with every thing bridal and Bride Day Friday on TLC and now it has taken longer than I thought to get the bug out of my system – evident in that I now cannot shut up when even talking to strangers about their weddings, offering advice and tips without even being asked or taking a breath for that matter.
Regardless, love seems to be in the air and it is quite beautiful is it not to witness that magical emotional moment of “I Do’s” and the coming together of families? I know my wedding was beautiful and magical and hella fun… but I might be a tad biased.
In the midst of all these weddings though, it makes you wonder how many of them will surly last and pass the test of time and truly be till death does part? Isn’t the divorce rate these days something like 50%? It’s basically a gamble to get married. Now speaking for myself, in spite of my Welcome post that I admit, makes me sound quite down and out about my current situation, I assure you though, my marriage is going to last. My husband and I are both too needy and much too stubborn to ever part ways and well, we love each other too so that helps. But what about all the other people? All my friends and family and neighbours that got married this summer? Did they get married for the right reasons? Do they know enough about each other to make that commitment?
For example, I have these friends that got married and while I don’t know much about the girl, we did grow up in the same town and knew a lot of the same people and the rumours and stories that I heard about this girl were not of the most noble nature. Frankly, she liked to party and get around. The impression that I had of her was that she moves quite quickly from one fad to the other. Now when she got together with the guy, we all thought it was just another fad but next thing you know they’re getting married. Everything that was wrong with the wedding in my own opinion is for another day’s discussion but nonetheless, I think the speed with which they got married and without several of their family members genuine blessing left many people doubting the longevity of the marriage. But then again we are not them and we do not know what their relationship is like. To their credit they are still together and seem to still be in the honeymoon stage – Whoop for them (I’m only bitter about this because I have yet to go on my honeymoon)
This leads me to my final thought. I wonder if perhaps one of the contributing factors as to why the divorce rate is so high is maybe because there are people out there rooting for marriages to fail. I know that there are definitely women out there that may have even congratulated me, but secretly, deep down in the yearning of their dark wishes would actually take gratification in seeing my marriage fail. I can’t blame them though. My husband is quite the catch and many women have told him “I wish I could clone you” or something close to that. I, myself am no angel. Being perfectly honest with myself, I do sincerely hope all of my friends’ marriages work out and I think and say this because I’m a good person and I want the best for the people I love. But then there’s a small part of me, a tiny deep dark part, the devil on my shoulder if you will, that is alone all day long as a stay at home mom craving for attention and lacking in social interactions. The needy wife of me that is addicted to Facebook just so that I can anonymously witness the little snippets of daily drama, that part wants to observe from afar the 50% of marriages that will apparently statistically fail. Isn’t that what our society craves anyway? The ongoing dramatics of relationships that make us feel better about our ‘stable’ relationships or at least give the illusion for the time being that you exist in a perfect relationship? At least during these times of observing other failing relationships and reflection of one’s own strong and communicative marriage usually tends to lead to husbands getting laid right? What? Just mine?
Oh well, at least if I’m witnessing other marriages failing as time goes on, even if they are the people I love, doesn’t that mean that that my marriage has a higher chance statistically of succeeding? And really, when it comes down to it, I said I DO to my husband and when that happened our relationship became, above and beyond, my priority relationship. That means that regardless if I have a falling out with my best friend or disagreements with my family, the most important relationship that will have the biggest effect on my happiness and well being for my future is with my husband. So screw everyone else and everyone else’s marriage. Go ahead and get divorced. It just means statistically my marriage’s odds increase. I’ll just be here observing from afar, (okay, yes hardcore Facebook creeping,) and probably trying to dissect what happened so that I can take notes on What Not To Do. So basically, on a very personal, selfish and evil level, all these weddings happening are a good thing, yes? Down the road, sooner or later, when 50% of them inevitably fall apart at least it can all help fill the void in my life that will be lacking in the divorce drama department.
It’s okay too if you married peers of mine root for my marriage to fail as well. I won’t take it personally